A How To Guide: 3 Steps to Start Finding Your Balance

Where it all Began

I used to wait tables for a living.

5-7 days a week including doubles on the weekends. Sure, it was long hours but the job got me through college and then some.

Actually, if I’m being honest, I loved doing it. I met a ton of great people – even had some guests who became my regulars and eventual good friends.

One gentleman in particular, who wasn’t a regular, just a really nice older man who liked to talk had been sitting in my (now fiancée’s – yes, we met at work. That’s a different story) section one night and he told him something that really stuck with me:

“Everyone is given the same amount of time in a day. It all depends what you do with that time that determines who you are.”

I asked myself, “who do I want to be?” At the time, I would’ve answered something along the lines of, “I just want to freaking finish school at this point”.

Now?

My answer is much clearer. I want to be someone who made the most of today. Even if it was a frustratingly bad day or any and everything that could go wrong, did type-of-day. It doesn’t matter. The guest that night was right. I could sit and dwell on those things or I could pick my ass up and try again tomorrow or at least try to learn from the things that went wrong. Maybe grow from them somehow. I don’t know. At the end of each day, I want to be a stronger, better version of who I was when I woke up.

So, what in the actual hell does this have to do with a “how-to” on finding your balance?

I’ll tell ya! 😊

3 Ways to Find Your Balance:

1. Wake up each day and set a goal for yourself. What are you going to accomplish today that you haven’t before? (Literally this could be as simple as waking up 10 minutes earlier so you’re not speeding to work – woo hoo!)
2. Do a check in half way through your day. (Yes, for those of you familiar this is mind-body mediation related). But for real, what does it hurt to ask yourself (in your head or out loud) how you’re feeling at this point in your day? If you are frustrated or feeling down, why? How can you deal with it? Check out this mindfulness blog to help you get started with this step!

3. At the end of your day, remember to be thankful for everything you have and everything you accomplished. Did you complete the goal you set that morning? Did you have any small wins that made your day just a bit better? Any small, positive aspect you can take away from your day is a great start.

Maybe these sound corny to you. That’s okay (they are a little bit) but once/if you can get past that, I seriously encourage you do take these three steps to heart (and not just because I wrote them!), but because they should mean something to you. Everything you do in your life now and every day moving forward is for you. It may not seem like it when you have the stresses of everyday life bearing down on you but you are making yourself a little bit stronger each day.

Plus, there’s absolutely NO WAY you can feel truly balanced if you aren’t in tune with how you’re truly feeling or understand what’s causing those feelings.

Alrighty, that’s more than enough mushy, “you got this” shit. Now go out and get it!